“Are you offended?”

When I was in sixth form (education system for people in the UK typically aged 16 to 18) I was friends with people who enjoyed making Islamophobic jokes. On one occasion one of them asked me if I was offended – in a tone that suggested I would be wrong to be offended by the jokes they’d just told. I was the only south Asian in that group. I said I wasn’t offended, but in reality I was very offended. I felt coerced, and unable to speak up due to the fear of being ostracised. I’m no longer friends with those people.